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DennisG9
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Jun 03, 2014

Getting ready to full time and DW is getting nervous

We both retired as of 12/01/2013 and have been working to get every thing ready to hit the road. DW is now not wanting to go because she will have to find new doctor, dentist, nail person, ect. She is worried she won't be able to find where to shop or how to get around. We have been in the San Jose area for 14 years and she is afraid of change.

How have some of the ladies here made the transition and what can I say do to ease her fears?

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  • My darling wife is not a full timer, so I purchased a 12X60 mobile home and put it on our oldest daughter's property. It gives her a place to satisfy her nesting instinct and the option to get off the road. We call is our parents home as no one will be living in it except us. Eventually we will build a building between both trailers so it is one unit with an area big enough for a bedroom and a big area for us to have holiday gatherings. Anyway, it provides her peace of mind to have a place to call home and allows me to travel. Also, we do not have to pay for a mail address and for having our mail forwarded to us. We talk about stuff over the phone and she has access to all our accounts and can pay anything that is not already set up on automatic payment.
  • Hi.
    Have you thought about little trips, say 2 weeks at a time to ease her into it?
    Hand her a Rand McNally Map from Costco and let her pick the route. If she is worried about not having a place to stay, have her call ahead and make some reservations, so she has a plan of where she is going.
    Just because you are full timing doesn't mean she can't go back to San Jose for her yearly check ups with Dr's, Dentist's, etc.
    Her priorities will probably change if you make it to full timing. She wont worry about her hair, nails, etc so much.
    Unfortunately, she may not be the full timing type of person. Alot of people need that home base as a mental form of security. Whatever you do, dont try and talk her into anything because if she is not happy, its pretty small quarters you will have with no escape!
    Best of luck to you. Hope you are able to live the fulltiming dream.
  • You ain't going to like this

    If mama ain't happy no one is.

    Sorry guy