The way we shopped was to put down a list of must haves, and start shopping from that. Then you'll find some things you really like or want, so you add those to a second list. Should be narrowed down enough by then to be efficient shopping. Once you settle on a unit, then choose a truck.
Your must haves sound like:
1. Toy Hauler
2. Bathtub
3. Outdoor Kitchen
4. Full Size Refrigerator
5. 50A service
The second AC can be added, and many units come pre-wired, so that wouldn't be a must-have. Queen bed is virtually automatic in a rig that meets the other things.
Your must-have list will greatly restrict the units you are interested in because they are all space eaters. My guess is that they will drive you up in length more toward a 37ft or longer rig. The bathtub alone might drive you into a massive rig, so if there is one thing you can give up, that would be it.