Thanks for the responses guys!
As for the insurance, Progressive is being really nice about all this. In fact, the agent today said 'look, take pics of damage as is. then, use a patch that Coachman / maker of EPDM suggest, then take pics after applied. Send to me and I'll file with copy of receipts and your good to go with both us and Coachman' with respect to rubber roof material. He really doesn't want to go the full replacement route also. :) I like that. Coachman has said that the rest of the roof will still carry original warranty, but that patch spot so i i think i can live with that. Afterall, i need something to remind what a bonehead thing i did.
As for the Eternabond, yea, i've gotten allot of info from this site about it, and Googled for more. I think what I'm going to do is
1. Find / Get some of that self-leveling sealant and shoot some of that in the holes. After it dries, then put a strip of Eternabond over it, then putting more of the self-leveling sealant around the edges of the Eternabond. I'm going to try and get the EB behind the drip rail also.
2. As for the drip rail replacement, I'm gonna let the shop do that next week (earliest appt i could get :( The tree hit in two places; one further up but didn't damage the rubber. the drip rail further up is rolled into itself about 2 feet. But with the leaks / holes patched, i think i'll be able to better enjoy this weekend knowing the 100% chance of rain isn't going to get into the coach (I hope anyway).
If i didn't have to worry about the rain this week (South Mississippi so what can i say this time of year) my blood pressure would be allot lower right now.