Guilt about family left behind?
I am ready for us to quit our jobs, rent out both units in our two family house and live on the road...permanently...my husband (John) needs some convincing. Our son will be 24 this summer, so he does...
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Everybody has different personalities and relationships within their family hierarchy, and no one can advise you what's the best for your situation and relationships.
For us I know we wouldn't have left my dad alone on his own after my mum passed away and I was only 19 at that time, and 24 when dad passed afterwards, but nursed him at home until the end where to us he belonged and wanted to be.
We have a similar relationship with our youngest daughter and I just know in my heart that she'd expect us to live with or very close by to her and her family as we get older and less capable. She does however, know our ultimate goals are to go FTing within the next year or so for at least a couple of years or so = depends when we feel we've had enough of a good thing!
Our home base will always (within our abilities) be where we are now and they will live and raise their family here also, and we will build a "granny annex" for the future just to give everyone a little more independence when wanted.
With all the above said and done, we have stressed to maximum we can, that absolutely there is no way we ever want our kids putting their lives on hold for us should the worst scenario possible happen, so they have our blessings to do what might be required in the future but ........ it's in our genes to be close knit and look after our own".
For us I know we wouldn't have left my dad alone on his own after my mum passed away and I was only 19 at that time, and 24 when dad passed afterwards, but nursed him at home until the end where to us he belonged and wanted to be.
We have a similar relationship with our youngest daughter and I just know in my heart that she'd expect us to live with or very close by to her and her family as we get older and less capable. She does however, know our ultimate goals are to go FTing within the next year or so for at least a couple of years or so = depends when we feel we've had enough of a good thing!
Our home base will always (within our abilities) be where we are now and they will live and raise their family here also, and we will build a "granny annex" for the future just to give everyone a little more independence when wanted.
With all the above said and done, we have stressed to maximum we can, that absolutely there is no way we ever want our kids putting their lives on hold for us should the worst scenario possible happen, so they have our blessings to do what might be required in the future but ........ it's in our genes to be close knit and look after our own".
