BarbaraOK wrote:
Gemstone, -purposely skipped -
Again, if you read the OP, it is that the daughter wanted to know what was going on all of the time - a little bit of control being exerted when none is needed. Is there a time when intervention may be needed, of course there is. But for a lot of people, then don't really stop and think what is best for the parents, just what is best for them. - purposely skipped -
That's what we do with our DD and SIL each year. And since we don't expect to become ill at the exact same time, we also have some reassurance that we can help each other. Barb
Thank you Barbara, but the thing as I see it now is that our youngest daughter would like us nearer her more of the time .. I saw that today when we attended the grandkiddos basketball & LAX games ..
many on here have stated that perhaps it is time with us that she is missing with us on the road so much.
And as we have read/thought about the postings, you all might have hit it squarely where it is.
Looks like we will be cutting our out-of-state time volunteering and/or touring down a bit these next months and spend more time nearer to or in our 'home base' which is where our daughter lives.
Our next volunteer stint will be only about 18 miles from our home base. So at the close of that volunteer committment we will have been in the home base area for a total of 7 months before leaving and be gone for only 5 months.
Many of your discussions have prompted us to endeavor to see it from her standpoint and brought us to various ways we can alleviate her fears ...
I especially like the video tape idea ... have also thought that perhaps she & her Dad need to take a ride or two so she can see that her Dad's driving is ok yet .. when his driver's license came up for renewal this year, he gave up his CDL, as 4 years ago he had told his former boss he wasn't going to drive bus again, period.
I am tired tonight, so hope this all makes sense.
Again thank you all for sharing and giving us more ideas of how we can address her concerns of our health, etc.
