How much sway do you feel?

Look at a Class C Lazy Daze...they have a lower profile and handle very well. I put over 25,000 miles on mine and loved the way it handled. (I'm in a new Winnebago 31D now and haven't used it enough to judge how it handles.) The lower profile and heavier weight compared to a TT might alleviate your understandable feelings.

In high cross winds, even my car and pick up truck will be pushed by the wind.

My '94 Bounder (35') would porpoise, wallow, and sway in the wind and because of passing trucks. Most of that was solved by changing the shocks but I often found myself looking for an early stopping place when there was wind or too many trucks on the road.

My '02 Journey (35') is a dream to drive. I hardly know when the wind is blowing, even when it's gusting. Actually have to watch roadside trees and grasses to tell. Hardly notice when a truck passes the opposite direction. (To be fair, I do notice that my rig is pulled towards a truck passing going the same direction on a four lane freeway, but it's a mild effect).

Both rigs are Freightliner chassis.

I mention this because perhaps you just haven't run into the right rig yet? Some of them take thousands worth of add on products to reduce those effects, others, like mine, were designed in such a way that they hold the road without effort.

I know if I were in your position, I'd look at getting these airtabs for any class A I might purchase, because of the testimonials from people who say they really reduce wind effects on their RV...

Airtab

My old 30 ft Class A gasser would lean and swap lanes in a cross wind, and I was relieved to go to a dually pickup and heavy 5er after that. At least with a towable your pickup doesn't lean.

This DP is completely different than what we had before. It has a high tolerance for wind, but occasionally I get surprised with a microburst or truck rolling by.

Chock, on the two coaches that we have owned, not much sway at all as both had computer monitored air-bag suspension.

My brother on the other hand has had several RV's and each upgrade gets better and better.
All of these RV's were bought new at the time, a 2002 Georgie Boy gasser, 2005 Damon Astoria Diesel, 2014 Tiffin Allegro RED and now a 2015 Tiffin Allegro Bus.

He says the Allegro Bus is night and day over all the others as far as ride and sway. Of course, each unit is heavier and longer than the previous.

Good luck and hope that you find the right motorhome that fits you best!
MM.

rr2254545 wrote:
Even our 36,000 lb diesel pusher can get pushed by the wind - but about 800% better than our 35ft gasser

I agree, maybe even 900%. My 40ft DP has driven in some crazy west Texas wind (50MPH) and although the MPGs really suffer (or are great depending on direction) the coach is pretty darn stable. There is zero sway in a DP. Just an occasional push.

WW

Obviously a lot depends on how much you want to spend. You can get a Prevost bus chassis Class A and sway will be almost non-existent.
I have had both DP and gas coaches and I know that you can spend some money to stiffen the suspension on any unit to MINIMIZE the amount of sway/push that you get from passing trucks and cross winds.
We travel a lot out West in the Great Plains area of the country and, especially during the Winter months, the winds can be quite severe.
I now have a gas coach and I installed four corner air bags that I can adjust from the drivers seat. When the winds start picking up, I raise the air pressure to about 80-90 psi and it is rock solid, even in 30-50 mph wind gusts. I also have Koni FSD shocks and they also help to dampen any sway.
Doing this makes it possible to travel on those windy days, but it also stiffens the ride so that bumps are more noticeable on the interstate highways. If we are on the back roads, I can lower the air pressure down to about 40 psi and the ride is better and we don't have to worry too much with passing trucks or winds, since the speeds are lower.
Adding the air bags and pump was a fairly inexpensive upgrade to my suspension. It was cheaper than adding both front and rear track bars and, from past experience, the air bags work better.
Your best bet would be to actually drive a Class A and see if it is what you are looking for. Driving a Class A is different than driving any vehicle towing a trailer. You sit higher and you are in a wider vehicle. This may not alleviate your fears and it could be an expensive venture if it will not suit your needs.

TTs sway, MHs wollow, fives clunk. Every type of RV will have some sort of concerns for you. Maybe it's time to seek professional help.

Even our 36,000 lb diesel pusher can get pushed by the wind - but about 800% better than our 35ft gasser

No rv will handle like a normal car. That being said, I have heard from friends that have a fifth wheel that they are much better that the travel trailer they previously had. I have had several motorhomes of various sizes. All handle differently, buy I also have learned that all can be improved by spending some money on the suspension.

Spend some time deciding how big a mh you want, or if a fifth wheel might work. After that then spend time researching the models that might suit you on this and other forums so you will get the real answers from real people, not just the salesman.

Thirdly and perhaps most importantly, consider getting a professional driving lesson in whatever rv you decide on. Learn how to drive it from a pro and you will be much more comfortable in it.

Good luck.