The gray tank almost always fills faster than the black- AND sometimes there are problems with black tanks clogging due to a lack of water...Thus as someone posted before- they sometimes run the bathroom sink to the black tank to help with that.
Speaking only as an outsider- it does seem "bad planning" to have the shower supplement the black tank- showers can generate a LOT of water...
...additionally, when the gray fills first- there's a slight psychological advantage to running from the gray to the black as opposed to the opposite.
Some folks have gotten quite mental over the thought of black water entering the gray side- or even being briefly connected together with those valves...I agree with the post immediately above that mother nature generates beautiful-biodegrading-but-potentially-pathogenic bugs in both gray AND black water.