This is a very diifficult situation. While the grandchildren are very young we want to be there for them, which is a pinnacle time to build the relationship and to love on them without resistance. However, they do turn into TEENAGERS and they don't need or want us in their lives as much ( or so it seems).
So in the meantime before they reach THOSE teenage years, I take trips that don't required me to be away longer than a month and I FaceTime each night.
At a time in this world when there is so much evil and meanness, a loving Grandparent is much needed, but you also need your time to enjoy your spouse. Don't feel guilty if you do go away.
Unfortunately, my husband is deceased, so I solo. I'd give anything to share special times with him.
Hope this helped.
