No, it doesn't take much trying to know that I married my wife, not my friends. After probably 40 years of working and the statistical probability of dropping dead before his wife the op deserves to ride off and live the retirement dream.
I have a work friend who has a similar situation because his wife just cant leave the grand kids. 66 years old, 20 acres, pond, built in pool, 4 bed house, John Deere tractors, huge lawn, pole barn, 2 cars, diesel truck, AND a FW that's been sitting next to the pole barn and never moved. It got new carpet in it because she didn't like the color but it cant roll anywhere. He cant quit working because she wont downsize and consolidate. He's also getting a pension. Grand kids do need their own rooms when the come to visit. They have to have a pool and a pond to play in. Well, maybe dont call it visit, maybe call it built in babysitter.
x neighbor is 70 and cant go to Fl for more than a month because his wife has to see the grand daughter. Well, again maybe it should be called built in babysitter. Pull the new TT through the salty slop all the way to Fl and stay for 3 weeks then haul butt back through the slop. Why bother, why spend $28,000 and park it after dragging it 2,800 miles and 4 weeks of use? Kiss my.
Nothing wrong with doing it how they want, we each choose our own way but my kids had their turn with me, now it's my turn. We are expecting our first Grandchild in March and we'll be there. Then we'll be gone and let them take their turn at raising their child. They had the kid so they will be paying the $1,200 a month in day care. They enjoyed the foreplay and the sex and the joy of it all, why would I give up my "Golden" years to babysit? If the wife wants to stay maybe I can have someone ride share with me and see the country. That person wouldn't be too hard to find.
Well, that is the beauty of it all, we each get to choose our own way but wifes girlfriends are pretty low on the list and pretty disposable when it comes to living the last years of my life. I cant remember the issue the wife and I were going round about but I told her I was going to get a bumper sticker for her side of the dashboard.
"GET IN, HOLD ON, AND SHUT UP"
She's still sitting over there and becoming a pretty dang good co pilot too!