Got bad news today re: DH
This is going to be long, so if you're not interested you can move on. I don't have any real life friends that I can talk to. I don't want to post it on Facebook either, because it's a pretty sensitiv...
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It's not good news. The surgeon advises against surgery because DH is such a high risk. He thinks DH may not be able to get off the ventilator and will be high risk for pneumonia and sepsis. We are discussing what to do, but it appears that surgery would not improve his quality of life and indeed, could make it much, much worse.
It's pretty sad around here tonight. I can hear both of us deep-sighing from time to time. We're telling our families tonight. We're going to wait on telling the kids much until after DD21 gets done with finals in 3 weeks. I'm worried about telling DS27 because he is already in a deep depression (he has bipolar disorder, unmedicated--yeah...such fun...)
We're still going to submit his records to the Cleveland Clinic and let the chips fall where they may. If they say the same thing, then it's a done deal. DH says he still wants to go to Alaska this summer, if he can get clearance to fly. At this point it's all about quality of life,I think.
It's not good news. The surgeon advises against surgery because DH is such a high risk. He thinks DH may not be able to get off the ventilator and will be high risk for pneumonia and sepsis. We are discussing what to do, but it appears that surgery would not improve his quality of life and indeed, could make it much, much worse.
It's pretty sad around here tonight. I can hear both of us deep-sighing from time to time. We're telling our families tonight. We're going to wait on telling the kids much until after DD21 gets done with finals in 3 weeks. I'm worried about telling DS27 because he is already in a deep depression (he has bipolar disorder, unmedicated--yeah...such fun...)
We're still going to submit his records to the Cleveland Clinic and let the chips fall where they may. If they say the same thing, then it's a done deal. DH says he still wants to go to Alaska this summer, if he can get clearance to fly. At this point it's all about quality of life,I think.
