There is a moral to the O/P's first post in this thread.. And it is one that a friend of mine called the law of requisite choice: You may live only so long as TOTAL CHOICES is greater than FATAL CHOICES.. Or in shore Choice is good.
Some folks think I'm nuts for towing a trailer (In an earlier part of my life) or driving a motor home (now) They would rather stay in a nice Hotel. (Ever look at what's under (or over) the mattress in a hotel?)>
Choice is good.. And it is good that we can all make our own choices. Cause a week from Thursday.. I get to sing at a celebration about a man named John (just like me Different last name though) who ran out of choices.... Yes. it's called a funeral.