Our 37-year-old son has been fighting stage 4 colorectal cancer for four years. It has metastasized to his spine and lung, and now a new tumor has appeared at the original site. He has a wife and five children, ages 10 down to a one-year-old. He's hoping the oncologists can find a chemo drug that will be effective against the types of cancer he has. So far, not much good news.
During one of our conversations, he was trying to decide whether it was better to know you were dying and have time to take care of things, or to just die instantly in a car wreck. Very hard question.
Chuck, if you have children and grandchildren, what about making a video or videos, telling them things you would want them to know now and in the future? Or write them letters. Or keep a journal to leave for them.
If it were my husband dying, I'd want him to agree to hospice care during the final days/weeks. I'd want to spend those precious hours as his wife and not as his caregiver. I would love to have his bible, with a meaningful inscription.
May the Lord give both of you comfort and encouragement.
