Retired and caring for parent?

DH and I are the youngster's in this group at 42 and 44. This year has been extremely challenging for us. His mother died of a heart attack in March and my dad lost his battle with cancer in April. In the last seven months we have been taking care of my mom and his dad. My mother is the most difficult as mom never wanted to learn how to pay the bills, didn't know where dad's accounts were and she is really struggling to find her way. My brother and I now have all the bills forwarded so we can pay them and not stress her out. Our plan after dad's death was to move to the coast, but she's made it clear she's not leaving. Our plans are to stay put for now until the dust settles.

We canceled several trips this year to help our parents with their grief. We figure in time we'll be able to go out more, but this is where we are needed right now.