David,
The answer to your question is somewhat model dependent. I don't know which your Bounder will have, so I will tell you of both and you can go find out what you have and then you should be very capable of dealing with it.
As your search confirmed, the "Trombetta" relay is just a continues duty version of a Ford starter solenoid or as an electrical guy will call it, a contactor. They make a bunch, but so does Borg-Warner.
Yes, there is a lot of knowledge here, but you have to be careful to include enough information so the providers can correctly sort it for a response.
For charging, these are more common on class C than class A, as a C builder doesn't want to mess with the chassis electrics. The contactor is just a means to parallel the house and chassis banks while the main engine is running. Sometimes they have a voltage detecting circuit so it won't engage until the chassis battery has recovered form the main engine start.
Other units have a diode isolator. This is just two big diodes buried in large heat sink. The alternator feeds both anodes and the chassis and house bank are each connected to an cathode. Simple, self regulating and effective, but somewhat spike sensitive.
Matt