There are so many things I don't understand
Currently it's the guy who's spent most of a half hour trying to back his fiver into a pull-thru site. There must be a logical explanation - he is human, after all - and we humans are rational beings,...
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rjf7g wrote:Old-Biscuit wrote:
Last time I offered a 'extra set of eyes' cause site was 'tight' I got chewed out by lady driver......she had been a bus driver for 20+ years.
As a "lady driver," I have to say that I am offered help quite a lot - mostly backing up a trailer. I can do that just fine, thank you. So many times, it seems as if men are assuming incompetence and most women are quick to say, "I could never do that," feeding in to the assumption of incompetence. I am fortunate in that my Dad was a long haul truck driver and I grew up watching him confidently and competently back up a 53' trailer with what seemed like 3" leeway on each side. The first time I tried to back my new boat in to my shed, I got in a bind and called Dad for help. He was at my house in minutes and taught me everything I need to know about backing up a trailer. I have been fine since then.
What I do need help with and do not hesitate to ask for it is the stuff that requires brute strength. I use physics to my advantage but sometimes that still isn't enough.
I don't know what helpful men can say without sounding corny - "Hey, you look like you know what you're doing but I figure everyone needs help sometime - if you need help while I am around, just holler" . I don't know...heck, I watched a guy with a 3500HD Duramax Dually spend what seemed like an hour trying to back a boat trailer down a ramp I hit the first time...I was hesitant to offer assistance and felt guilty after. I wasn't sure what to say...
The CG sites were back-ins from an off angle short road with trees/boulders one had to negotiate to get in.
THAT is why I offered extra set of eyes, not because 'she was a lady' (which turns out she wasn't with the language that came out drivers window.)
Had NOTHING to do with 'being a lady' as in 'incompetent'
It was a lousy sight that required more then one set of eyeballs watching front swing, tail swing and low obstacles.
If I see a situation that could use an extra set of eyeballs or if driver is having tough time I will offer help.
BUT I will also walk away at first sign of attitude and then
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