We have similar problem.......my mother is 85.....in really good health, but has had a crisis or two in last year (fell, broke her arm & doc. overdosed her). I regularly (at home) got 4-5 phone calls a day. We wanted to come to Arizona for the winter. She has whined, pouted, tried a guilt trip to get us to stay home/come home. Now she calls and is all upset because the weather is horrible and she worries about us. The weather......we in western Arizona.......one rainstorm................:) We debated and debated and finally decided WE weren't getting any younger and mom has her husband to take care of her (he's younger and in good health). She refused to speak to me for first few weeks. Now she's accepted it but still tries to guilt trip me (the calls about the weather and now upset because we aren't going to be there for Christmas --- last Christmas THEY were gone..so it's not like I'm changing a whole family dynamic). My point is....we're enjoying the heck out of ourselves, mom is surviving fine. I agree with others --- GO and enjoy yourself...especially if your husband's health is bad. Expect her to pull all kinds of things......but she may surprise you and accept it.
