I remember my wife who was in a similar situation with a mother in seriously failing health (everything that did not actually kill you) and was on dialysis three times a week... We let her chose the facility and she made friends. BUT. My wife came home after a visit and said "how can she push my buttons" and I said "she was the one who installed them". Go while you still can. If she is computer literate or it can be set up, use Skipe or Face time to "share" the experience or even take her out locally.
