Sorry to hear about your Blue Ox experience, towing comfort is paramount particularly when towing a longer TT. I do believe you are better off with the 3/4 ton anyway and having the well respected Equalizer WD/SC hitch installed should provide good service for years to come. Out West where we RV most we encounter windy conditions daily and do most of our traveling on interstates just to get anywhere, having our 10K# TT rock solid while towing at those speeds was job one when we got our current rig a decade ago. Heck, the DW has zero issues taking over here and there while underway, sometimes I have to remind her to slow down a bit since ST tires are not ideally suited for speeds over 65mph although our ST tires are rated for higher speeds.