well a new update, one of the magnets wasn't doing anything, vom shows infinite resistence, so its burnt out
got a new magnet, wired it up with new cable from the junction box. now both brakes on the drivers side have a good solid connection and I get a solid "clunk" when I power the breakaway system with two brakes energized
so now I have both driver's side brakes fed by a new 12 ga cable, now I'm going to run a new cable from the junction box to the curb side brakes
I'm stripping and soldering all splices, i'll cover them with heat shrink stuff when its done, ive also added a return wire from every wheel, this will eliminate any grounding issues