Hang in there man..... there is life (and toys :)) after divorce. My first marriage ended in divorce and looking back 15 years it's been overall okay.
Above all else, our son has turned out great. He's now 16, has a 3.5 GPA, a job, drives, and gets along great with my 2nd wife and 3 young siblings. His mom and my relationship is/was bumpy at times along the way but overall functional. My best advice is to swallow huge helpings of pride and remember what's best for your kids.
Looking back there were some blessings in disguise. During times I had my son I made it a point to clear all other things from my schedule and focus on spending time with him. This worked out great and I ended up getting more quality time with him than I otherwise would have.