Here is where I think you are confusing yourself. The transmission does not have the same pressure throughout the whole system. The valve body (or solenoid pack in electronically controlled transmissions) will manipulate pressure and flow going to various clutch packs and servos. This is how it increases pressure and flow in one area by decreasing it in another.
Never said there was the same pressure throughout the transmission. The maximum pressure in the transmission is limited by the capacity of the pump and the demand being put on it. A valve cannot increase that pressure, it can only reduce it.