To help ease your (their) mind, AAM (American Axle Manufacturing) rates the aam11.5 axle that has been used in the Chevy duramax combination since day one at 10,000 lbs, Chevy designates the RAWR by the size of the tires they install and the suspension they choose to put on the truck. The difference between 2500 and 3500 is one size larger tires, and an overload spring (helper). As long as they have a set of tires that will handle the weight on the rear axle and an airbag set up (not necessarily but adds to comfort level) they will be fine. That being said towing experience is a major factor in comfort towing a large 5th wheel, for a lot of people it's the first thing that they tow that they can actually feel the weight of so they complain of poor ride and "white knuckle" drive. So can the truck safely haul the 5er, yes, will he be comfortable towing it, only he an answer that
One common over looked fact that the weight popo fail to acknowledge or understand is the little sticker on the door of the truck is "as left the factory" and usually has the tire size listed with weights, any upgrades to the truck alter that sticker info.