I was running heavy

I wouldn't have worried about 250 pounds, thats nothing really. Enjoy your trip and when you get home figure out where you can shed a few pounds since it looks like you either didn't purchase a trailer that meets your needs or you have a bunch of junk in the trailer. What did the wife and kids pack that put you 250 over in the first place? Are you at max weight before the wife and kids even put anything in the trailer? 250 pounds of clothes and electronics is a lot of clothes and stuff considering I would hope you have at least 500 pounds of extra weight room once the trailer was loaded for camping so the wife and kids loaded 500 + pounds of gear in the trailer? Kind of sounds like maybe the wife and kids are being blamed for something that isn't really there problem.