my curse

As others have said, backing is just a matter of "practice".
I "always" back by myself. I don't want the distraction of someone "helping" me.
My exception to that rule is for instance when backing the 35' horse trailer at a show. I have a spotter back there to make sure no children ( or adults for that matter ) get in the way. The ONLY thing I want to see from my spotter is the signal to STOP. Nothing else, ever. And this silly nonsense of people who use a their tiny little fist balled up as the "stop" signal does not cut it with me. We use the standard FAA signal for indicating the stop of an aircraft on the ramp: arms crossed above the head. If it's important enough to indicate a stop, then it's darn sure important enough to have a signal the driver can really see. That is something that can be seen from quite a distance.

I found the tow vehicle can play a part as well. When we had a boat I was first using a Blazer to tow it. Backing down the ramp was always a pain. When we bought our Durango it was easy as could be.

The kind of hitch would have zero effect on backing. Test this by hitching up directly to the trailer without the equal I zer and backing will be the same.

Funny you should post this today. I generally back in to sites without much problem. Today, I arrived at the campground and picked a corner spot where three roads meet. It looked as if it was a chip shot, however, the road has a slight turn that kept me from seeing the site from either mirror. I like to never got it. I'm a strong believer in "GOAL" (Get Out And Look) and I must have gotten out about 5 times. Finally I managed to man handle the rig far enough into the site that I could see the power pedestal. Once that was in my mirror I landed it with no farther problem. Anyway, don't feel bad about it - maybe some time in an empty parking lot practicing would help?

Backing is just practice and taking your time and not getting pressured. Find an empty parking lot and do it until your comfortable. Your hitch is fine.

nephi007 wrote:
We had a 4 point equalizer hitch which was fine but I wonder if other wdh are better for backing up ease.

I'm not sure I understand what a hitch has to do with backing...?

Get a set of two way radios and go practice with your wife. Have her tell you what to do and only listen to her. We have a 32 foot trailer and there a times I can't even see the back corner of the trailer. She tells me how far to pull forward , when and which way to cut. It works really well for us. Plus if it goes bad you can blame her.

I don't have any issues (or knot in stomach) backing up, but I am ultra paranoid. I don't let anyone help guide me in.. I always get out and look about 5 times... I have to see it for myself. I once had to back into a spot at night.. Couldn't see anything from the truck. I backed up a couple of feet and got out and looked.. About 20 times.. Took me 30 minutes to do it. lol.

I don't think any hitch helps the process... Have you thought of using a back-up camera at the end of the trailer?