Newbie with general tow questions

I have found most dealers don't know about the mechanics of towing, with exceptions. The season is so short that techs they hire don't have a foggy clue what you can tow or can not. The salesmen we wish knew but they don't, there primary interest is to transfer your money from you to there pocket and hope you don't have an accident. I met a guy with five passengers towing a 28foot TT with a ford explorer. The rig was almost touching the road at the hitch but the dealer told him that is the way they all ride. He was fine, no he was greatly over loaded. He would move the TT every day to empty the tanks and almost ripped a hole in the roof with the TV antenna if it had not been for another camper. He traveled 1100 miles that way and had to get back. It was a accident ready to happen. Personally I have trouble getting parts for my RV and service is so backed up you can wait all summer to get something looked at, then hope the tech is trained or he could destroy what he is trying to adjust or repair. Just getting the wheel bearings greased takes time to interview the tech to see if he has ever done it before. My manual warns against using the axel to lift the trailer but they all do it against the manufacturers warnings. Just the plastic nuts covering the lug nuts have to be removed carefully or you will shred them into little pieces. Finding a tow vehicle requires a "MAX" tow package the others are called towing packages and don't add to the vehicles ability to tow anymore weight just give you lights and a hitch. Your dad is right on. This is already to long so I will end but get plenty of advice before you let anyone touch your camper, and check Trailer Lifes weight chart on this site to see what you can tow.