I am pretty experienced towing, having towed a 42 foot car trailer on the Busch North circuit in the mid 90s using my 7.3l dually. I also owned vatious campers at that time. Unfortunately, I got into a financial situation, and just got back into camping with the family. My baby diesel is a lot more HD and capable than the Santa Fe, and I am at the edge with a trailer weight of around 4500lbs weighed at the scales. I am 100 pounds over the Jeeps GVW fully loaded with Family and fully loaded camp ready trailer. If I knew now, I would have gotten the Roo 183 over the 21BH. Less tail to wag the Jeep (Although my Weight Distribution Hitch doea a good job). I would also have taken the hit on ride and fuel economy and gotten LT tires, even though my current tires are a huge improvement over the stock tires. But that still won't hide the fact that I have to pull the trailer on the interstate past the runaway truck ramps.
Dude, we are just giving you our experiences and our opinion based on what we learned from our experiences. Take what you want.