It sure seems like GVWR of vehicals and trailers always get contentious, espically when near the limit. If you come to a TT forum looking for a blessing when your close on weight, it will almost always cause debate, as it should. Bottom line is educate yourself, ask people you know who tow.
I’m close with my 2008 CrewMax /w tow package, but BELOW my limit, but with that being said, I wanted advice as to what others do, no matter what they pull with. With that advice I went with a TRD sway bar, Bilstein towing shocks, and Firestone air bags. I now feel much more comfortable towing my trailer, and don’t need to trade in my paid off truck which only has 55,000 miles on it. The key is I bought a TT I can tow safely ( maybe not comfortably) to begin with.
Bottom line is I did my research and determined what I could tow safely, then made towing it more comfortable. If your right on the limit, or slightly over, posting on a TT forum for a blessing will be a very mixed bag.