I responded to this but apparently it didn't go through.
For the record. No, I'm not looking for something for nothing. Physics still apply. However, fuel efficiency has improved quite a bit over the years and you'd think there might be more fuel efficient options to tow 4000lbs than a full sized V8 getting 8-10 mpg.
Transmissions? I prefer manual to automatic but that's just me. CVT's I can't trust in a lawn tractor, why trust it in a car let alone a truck? Lol. Multispeeds I'm not entirely sold on - in cars anyway I see no advantage to the 8 speed in our 2017 Impala over the four speeds in the '08 Sonata or the '08 V6 Impala. SUV versus pickup - there are some perks and drawbacks to each. I prefer pickups (with a topper is nice) but at my price range quite often SUV's are less likely to have been abused than trucks.
Granted, it's hard to beat the outright towing of full size pickups - I thought perhaps with modern tech they might get better mpg towing. I was thinking that a smaller rig might be sufficient and get decent (14+) mileage even if it has to work a bit harder on steep hills. Of folks we met this summer, there was one couple towing an Rpod with a '95 Grand Caravan, perfectly happy with it; and an older lady with 2012 Escape V6 who towed a Sportsman roughly our size and weight. Around Iowa she claims to get 18 mpg or better and has been across the country with it. 12 mpg through the Rockies; I don't know what her standard for 'tows fine' is though.
Anyway - the Aerostar. We had an '87 XLT, loved it, but it went to hell at around 120k. I would be interested in another, what with Internet forums. Ironically as with other trucks, the smaller (3 L) has a higher tow rating than the 4L. Most Dakotas have higher tows and hauls than the Ram 1500's. I assume weight difference in the Dodges and weight capacity in the Ford.
Our unicorn was called Big Blue - beautiful two tone blue, trailer package, HD. The torque converter went six months in, it took four months and 300 search pages to find another. Tranny shop said tranny was ok while I had it out. Two months in it started feeling soft, we sold it. Four years later, it's had four owners and five trannys. I wonder if a 2500 trans and tc would have worked. I miss that truck. I haven't figured out how to add a pic of it.