We tow with an F-150 CC with a rating of 8000#. Our HTT fully loaded for camping weighed 5000# on the nose. so we had plenty of wiggle room. Our new TT is a bit heavier, but still well within our safety limits. Remember, the numbers you consider need to include the trailer, passengers in the vehicle, stuff in the back of the vehicle, all the stuff in the trailer, propane in the tanks and anything in the tanks. It adds up pretty quickly. 6000# rating means that you should not be towing a trailer that weighs over 5000# fully loaded. I am thinking that you need to be looking at a smaller, lightweight TT. Rockwood makes a line called the Mini Lites that may be something you'd be interested in. Most of the manufacturers have models that would be good for you. WDH...absolutely. Sway.....you betcha. We had an Equalizer on the HTT and it was excellent. Our dealer for the TT recommended the Blue Ox 1000, or would order us an Equalizer, if we preferred. DH went to the Blue Ox website and watched their videos. He liked what he saw, especially the grease fittings and the fact that it was easier to hook up, much less messy and QUIET, which the Equalizer is not. You might take a look at it. We've towed about 1000 miles since we took delivery and he's very pleased. Good luck shopping for the perfect TT for your family, but watch that weight. BTW, don't believe everything a salesman tells you.....might be stretching the truth a bit.