Thanks for all the replies, the information on this site is super helpful. As we just put on another 1,000 miles, in pretty gusty spring winds (man, we saw trailers both 5th wheel and bumper pull swaying and being flung all over the roads, some clearly were set up right and did better but some were just sketchy to the point of my wife and I cringing), and again, more terrible roads in places, some urban race car type stuff happening around us, and other mayhem, I am reinforced in my original feelings about the new rig setup, in fact as I drive it more I appreciate it more.
It is probably a combination of things (including dumb luck), the weight and balance (being very, very careful around weight and it's location), the new mods, plus the information that folks like you all provide got our rig right where I wanted it to be. I am running 80 psi rear and 75 front, that seems to be the dialed in point, for now.
We considered a DRW at the start, I have driven them before for work, they are awesome haulers and just workhorses all around. It would have driven us to a larger NL, which we would have liked in some ways but we like to go off into the wild a bit and it would have been too much weight and width. Not out of the picture for the future after we get done with these missions. '
Something about truck campers that just fit us. At times it is tight with us working remotely from the road, I would like a better place to sit in the evening than the dinette (oh, my kingdom for a recliner at times) and with all marriages, we would like to be in another room, but for all that, we are good partners, my wife is rugged and for our mission right now, it is perfect. We are grateful for what we have.
I hope you all have a great season out there, enjoying it and being safe. Again, thanks for all the insights.
Regards