First, what's with all the grouchiness here?? Boondockers are mellow, right?
Second, to each his own.
Third, we never have a campfire when boondocking -- too much risk of an ember blowing away and causing a forest fire. We are almost always camped in heavy timber, with breezy conditions. The Far West is almost always dry, dry, dry.
And then when we are in a campground, we are not allowed to gather downed wood, I never remember to bring our own, I am too cheap to buy a bundle of wood, and we are usually too tired after a day of hiking.
Fourth, we have a campfire several nights a week -- at home, on our patio! (We eat breakfast and dinner outside most of the year -- we live in coastal Southern Calif, with no bugs, no rain, dry, sunny, and boring weather.) And on chilly mornings, we sometimes have a fire with breakfast. So camping provides a welcome break from all of those fires!