TaterSR:
O.K. so you tried a big expensive park and found it to be snobby. Then a lower cost park and everything seemed wrong. Guess you should now tried a medium priced park. :)
Do you really need a pool? Why don't you try some wonderful state parks in Arizona for two weeks at a time and while in different areas look around at RV parks for next year? Walk into their clubhouses as see if you're acknowledged. Walk down the street. Does anyone sit outside?
The greater Phoenix area also has some great Maricopa County parks. They all have huge sites and very pleasant surroundings and excellent hiking trails. They're in all directions of Phoenix. Move around. That's what we do because we enjoy exploring different areas and we get bored after two weeks in one place. Lost Dutchman State Park in Apache Junction is very nice, also.
Down in Tucson is Catalina State Park or Gilbert Ray campground in Tucson Mountain Park.
There are many options other than crowded RV parks. Good luck!