Extended pinboxes have become pretty much the defacto standard these days. Don't recall the last time I've seen an RV without one. If your pin box is about flush with the front cap, I think you've got the standard pinbox for your rig. Yes, it does increase stress on the frame, but you get a larger basement storage area.
Unless you've got something different than I am imagining, such as a pin that is a foot past the front cap, just leave it as is. If that doesn't sound right, how about posting a pic?
This is ours. Not even considered an extended box these days, even though technically it is. I also have a long bed. I wouldn't even be able to hitch up with anything less. In the distance you can see the neighbors much larger rig, with a similar pinbox.