Raise stabilizers, step, etc and be sure rig is ready.
Drivers widow open.
DW watching and I can see her in mirror and hear her.
Check that hitch handle is out.
Adjust landing gear to eye ball the pin height
Back into it and see where it contacts
Adjust height so it just slightly loads the hitch, dont want a lot of friction, just slight contact. Always want contact so you are not high.
If I'm misaligned to one side the hitch will want to twist so I sometimes have to drive forward and realign.
Back in slowly until I hear the clunk. When you are hooked up look at where the pin plate is situated in comparison to the hitch plate so you develop an idea of be properly aligned.
Check that the handle is all the way in and locked. Install my handle padlock and be sure handle cant be pulled out.
Look at the rear of hitch. I painted the jaw red.
Connect cables. Leave gate down.
Raise landing gear until an inch or 2 off the ground.
Hold manual brake control all the way on and tug test the hitch. This isn't mandatory but after reading of dropped rigs I know 100% that I started out good. If anything happened to the hitch after that there is no second guessing what went wrong. I know it wasn't me.
Finish raising the LG and finish check list.
As you do all of this show DW what you are doing and what to watch out for. 4 eyes and 2 brains are better. My dw now knows when it's too high or low, misaligned etc. When she says stop it's not right I get out and look and then proceed.