Guilt about family left behind?

Walaby wrote:

Hondavalk wrote:
Yes he has a valid reason, he doesn't want to do it! You on the other hand have a valid reason because this is what you want to do. Neither of you are right or wrong but it is something the two of you are going to have to work out between the two of you and not on an internet forum looking for a majority vote.

The perfect answer.

No one on this forum is qualified to give you any other answer. I don't mean to be harsh, but this is a decision for you and your husband. Not for a forum to vote one way or another or justify one way or another.

This seems like a personal decision/issue and if it were me, I would not be happy having it shared and debated with strangers.

Mike

I agree. Your husband has a right to his feelings and desires (or lack thereof) - just as you have a right to yours. Neither is wrong, they're just different.

You need to find a way to work with him and find a compromise that will work for you both - rather than saying "see, people think you should stop feeling guilty and go". Personal experience: comments like "don't get stressed", "don't feel guilty", etc., only piss the person off - they don't help them with their stress or guilt.