Mid Life Crisis Or Just Ready To Live?

[DMalone]

Ya know what...it's clear now that some have utterly missed the actual question and gotten the seriously off the wall impression this was a dire, desperate sort of question when it wasn't.

If you ask a house dweller about full timing in an RV, you'll get one of two likely answers:

I'd love to/wish I could, and
You're crazy!

As it happens, my entire family fall into group 2. I fall into group 1.

Now...being close to a point in time where I will need to pick a direction on residence, I've considered full time RV vs house. I also have a homeschooled 16 y/o.

IF you are a family with teens and you roadschool, and go full time in an RV, please share your suggestions on how you handle some of the typical teenager issues while residing in an RV, and things for them to do.

IF you deal with group 2 sorts and you'e a group 1 sort, please share advice on how you deal/dealt with people who are terrified of risk, change, or living.

IF you don't do either, then I don't need to hear from you because you don't have relatable relevant experience.


My original question regarding "mid life crisis" was not a severe mental issue. It was a nod to making unconventional choices and the reactions of people in group 2 who inevitably think it's nuts ANYWAY.

My original question regarding teens still stands. There are worse things he'll experience in life than spending a couple years living in an RV and seeing the country. I'm not worried about that. I was for a bit but it's been sorted out. I don't need your BS armchair pseudo psych evaluation nor is one warranted just because I make a decision to make my home an RV.

Now..carry on.

[ol__yeller]

I apologize. Obviously I misread your posts. It sounds like you have all the angles figured out so I wish you luck on your endeavor.

I just wish I could have back the 20 minutes or so I spent typing out a thoughtful answer that you dismiss as "trolling" and find it necessary to curse at me and others who were trying to be helpful. Your rant and refusal to consider anything besides what you have already made your mind up for underscores that you are ready to make more major life changes. But what do I know? Go for it girl, I'll say a prayer for you that it all works out.

PS, I'm on Escapees too.

[RoadLife]

Wow.

Folks have a lot of differing opinions on this one. If you ask the question, then you will get everyone's opinion. Take 'em with a grain of salt.

I will say again. You have an income, a son who is on board with the rving, a deep-seated desire to go fulltime, so whats the problem? Go for it. Folks have recommended Escapees. Also look at RV-Dreams

Hope to see you on the road!

[NYCgrrl]

DMalone wrote:

NYCgrrl wrote:

ol' yeller wrote:
Take a deep breath and please listen. You are not being trolled nor is anyone trying to be unfriendly. You have asked this forum what they think about your method to resolve your current life issues and then get upset when they try to help. As I read all your posts and all the answers I kept thinking that you need help getting through the situation that life has put you in. Seeking that help from a medical professional is much more beneficial than from a bunch of folks who happen to live in their RVs. I have been there and received that help when life put me in a very dark place about 25 years ago. This doesn't necessarily mean medication but rather talking with someone who is trained in helping you work through your issues.

If it was just you, I'd say go for it but you are also responsible for another human being and his needs have to be considered as you sort out your issues. Two years is very short time and will pass quickly. Then he will be old enough to take on the responsibility for his life and future. My recommendation to you is to use that time to find yourself and define what you want from life after he is on his own. If you decide to full time at that point any repercussions are only experienced by you. The joys will also be yours to savor. Honestly, I and the others here only wish you the best.

X 601 and on to infinity

For this part of the post an extra special "Hullooooooooooo"

If it was just you, I'd say go for it but you are also responsible for another human being and his needs have to be considered as you sort out your issues.

Finish your job raising your 16 y/o son and make that position your number 1 priority. All you've put off to date will still be there in 2 years' time. As a side benefit your son will be in your corner 20 odd years from now when you're the age of your parents.

No I didn't.

I have various family members who, in their own views, perceive the idea of going full time in an RV to be insane. They are filled with gloom and doom scenarios. They live for it. My original question was pointing out the concern maybe they got in my head and I'm second guessing myself - NOT second guessing full time in an RV but having one at all.

The SECOND topic was asking opinions and feedback on things teens do from families with teens who are full time RV.

YOU and a few others took that and ran off the damned deep end thinking this is some desperate escape from suicidal depression or some stupid **** and you are the one who is just off your rocker. You clearly misunderstood the question and now you're so full of your own nonsense you can't find your way back to the OP.

If you do not have teenagers and you do not live full time in an RV, and if you do not have family or friends who think anyone living in an RV is nuts, then you are not qualified to offer an answer and nothing else you say is relevant.

I'm not "in a situation". I'm about to invest a big amount of money and it's either an RV or a down on a house. Sorry you can't wrap your head around it but whatever. Maybe that's why YOU live in an RV...you have too much of an issue comprehending factual reality or can't break down simple concepts. Maybe you need to seek medical help with your comprehension level.

This is not about living with my parents. This is about DO I PURCHASE AN RV AND GO FOR IT OR JUST BUY A HOUSE AND DO WHAT EVERYONE ELSE DOES AND EXPECTS WE'RE SUPPOSED TO DO...

Jesus.

The fact that you drastically changed your opening post to better make yourself a victim of whatever is amusing yet doesn't change what you initially wrote or requested. No need for me to point out the obvious. It is nice that you've located your filter though. Hope it works IRL as well.

As for Jesus- Vaya con Dios.

[DMalone]

Thanks James...I will check it out.

Apparently I've wrongly assumed RV folks would be more supportive and helpful but seems this one isn't quite on the ball.

Be well.

[MiPaJacks]

Sorry I don't mean to be a pest, but check out Escapees, They are very civil over there and also have a great amount of information. Trust yourself your decision making power is very good, you will be fine.
James

[MiPaJacks]

Also, check the site rvsueandcrew,net a single lady that travels with her two dogs. Lots of good reading.
PM me if you would like.
I will watch your post for a few days to keep up with what is posted.
James

[punomatic]

I remarried when my son was that age. I explained in detail what I wanted to do and why. He said, "I'm a big boy, Dad. You do what you need to do." That, of course, is what I wanted to hear. As it turned out, however, he was saying what he thought (knew) I wanted to hear. He was trying to be a "good little soldier" for me.

I wish I had spent more time digging into his feelings about the situation. I failed him there. The result was several years of separation between us and several years of rejection of my wife. That has all been resolved now, but there was a lot of pain along the way.

I only relate this story to encourage you to be sure you know your son's true feelings. Boys at that age want to be "grown up," but they don't always know what that means. Sometimes, they think it means being "tough" in spite of feeling that their world is falling apart. The result can be a deep seated resentment that even they don't expect.

I hope you are a more sensitive parent than I was and can communicate freely and in depth with your boy. He will probably survive whatever decision you make, but he has had a lot of misery in his 16 years with the break up of the marriage (no matter how justified it may have been). I encourage you to be very sure you look at things from his perspective and ask pointed questions about what he is feeling/experiencing. You are the mom, but his life and development are still your primary responsibility, and he is old enough that his feelings should count. I wish you both joy in whatever the two of you decide. I will pray for you to have wisdom and sensitivity.

[Spleenstomper]

Wow. Buy a house. Definitely.

[MiPaJacks]

I say go for it!
You are competent capable person. Your son will get the best education in the world traveling and studying
Look at the web site Hitchitch, lots of folks post a blog on full timing ,some of them home school. Start your own blog, I've been on here for years I just don't need to see my name on post some do. Sorry for the nay sayers. Don't be discouraged.
James

[DMalone]

NYCgrrl wrote:

ol' yeller wrote:
Take a deep breath and please listen. You are not being trolled nor is anyone trying to be unfriendly. You have asked this forum what they think about your method to resolve your current life issues and then get upset when they try to help. As I read all your posts and all the answers I kept thinking that you need help getting through the situation that life has put you in. Seeking that help from a medical professional is much more beneficial than from a bunch of folks who happen to live in their RVs. I have been there and received that help when life put me in a very dark place about 25 years ago. This doesn't necessarily mean medication but rather talking with someone who is trained in helping you work through your issues.

If it was just you, I'd say go for it but you are also responsible for another human being and his needs have to be considered as you sort out your issues. Two years is very short time and will pass quickly. Then he will be old enough to take on the responsibility for his life and future. My recommendation to you is to use that time to find yourself and define what you want from life after he is on his own. If you decide to full time at that point any repercussions are only experienced by you. The joys will also be yours to savor. Honestly, I and the others here only wish you the best.

X 601 and on to infinity

For this part of the post an extra special "Hullooooooooooo"

If it was just you, I'd say go for it but you are also responsible for another human being and his needs have to be considered as you sort out your issues.

Finish your job raising your 16 y/o son and make that position your number 1 priority. All you've put off to date will still be there in 2 years' time. As a side benefit your son will be in your corner 20 odd years from now when you're the age of your parents.

No I didn't.

I have various family members who, in their own views, perceive the idea of going full time in an RV to be insane. They are filled with gloom and doom scenarios. They live for it. My original question was pointing out the concern maybe they got in my head and I'm second guessing myself - NOT second guessing full time in an RV but having one at all.

The SECOND topic was asking opinions and feedback on things teens do from families with teens who are full time RV.

YOU and a few others took that and ran off the damned deep end thinking this is some desperate escape from suicidal depression or some stupid **** and you are the one who is just off your rocker. You clearly misunderstood the question and now you're so full of your own nonsense you can't find your way back to the OP.

If you do not have teenagers and you do not live full time in an RV, and if you do not have family or friends who think anyone living in an RV is nuts, then you are not qualified to offer an answer and nothing else you say is relevant.

I'm not "in a situation". I'm about to invest a big amount of money and it's either an RV or a down on a house. Sorry you can't wrap your head around it but whatever. Maybe that's why YOU live in an RV...you have too much of an issue comprehending factual reality or can't break down simple concepts. Maybe you need to seek medical help with your comprehension level.

This is not about living with my parents. This is about DO I PURCHASE AN RV AND GO FOR IT OR JUST BUY A HOUSE AND DO WHAT EVERYONE ELSE DOES AND EXPECTS WE'RE SUPPOSED TO DO...

Jesus.

[DMalone]

Jesus H christ what part of "not in a dark place" are you incapable of comprehending?

You people have issues.

I'm done here. I asked a simple question and then end up with a bunch of armchair pseudo shrinks trying to psychoanalyze something that doesn't need psychoanalysis.

Given the fact you clearly cannot comprehend what you read and just go off the deep end, your comments and feedback are rendered irrelevant.

Otherwise I'm being trolled...and that makes this forum pretty useless.

I'm out.

[NYCgrrl]

ol' yeller wrote:
Take a deep breath and please listen. You are not being trolled nor is anyone trying to be unfriendly. You have asked this forum what they think about your method to resolve your current life issues and then get upset when they try to help. As I read all your posts and all the answers I kept thinking that you need help getting through the situation that life has put you in. Seeking that help from a medical professional is much more beneficial than from a bunch of folks who happen to live in their RVs. I have been there and received that help when life put me in a very dark place about 25 years ago. This doesn't necessarily mean medication but rather talking with someone who is trained in helping you work through your issues.

If it was just you, I'd say go for it but you are also responsible for another human being and his needs have to be considered as you sort out your issues. Two years is very short time and will pass quickly. Then he will be old enough to take on the responsibility for his life and future. My recommendation to you is to use that time to find yourself and define what you want from life after he is on his own. If you decide to full time at that point any repercussions are only experienced by you. The joys will also be yours to savor. Honestly, I and the others here only wish you the best.

X 601 and on to infinity

For this part of the post an extra special "Hullooooooooooo"

If it was just you, I'd say go for it but you are also responsible for another human being and his needs have to be considered as you sort out your issues.

Finish your job raising your 16 y/o son and make that position your number 1 priority. All you've put off to date will still be there in 2 years' time. As a side benefit your son will be in your corner 20 odd years from now when you're the age of your parents.

[ol__yeller]

Take a deep breath and please listen. You are not being trolled nor is anyone trying to be unfriendly. You have asked this forum what they think about your method to resolve your current life issues and then get upset when they try to help. As I read all your posts and all the answers I kept thinking that you need help getting through the situation that life has put you in. Seeking that help from a medical professional is much more beneficial than from a bunch of folks who happen to live in their RVs. I have been there and received that help when life put me in a very dark place about 25 years ago. This doesn't necessarily mean medication but rather talking with someone who is trained in helping you work through your issues.

If it was just you, I'd say go for it but you are also responsible for another human being and his needs have to be considered as you sort out your issues. Two years is very short time and will pass quickly. Then he will be old enough to take on the responsibility for his life and future. My recommendation to you is to use that time to find yourself and define what you want from life after he is on his own. If you decide to full time at that point any repercussions are only experienced by you. The joys will also be yours to savor. Honestly, I and the others here only wish you the best.

[cruisingat60]

As I said before, go for it. What's the worst that can happen?

I'm behind you, girl. It's your life; live it the way you want. Your family and friends will be behind you or they won't. You'll have made the right decision or the wrong one. You will love the life or you will hate it. But it's your life, so go the way that seems right to you.

I have the feeling you'll land on your feet whatever you choose and you'll be the best damn model of a strong woman your son will ever see.

[DMalone]

LOL wow, it may have been the way I wrote the OP trying to put out info I felt was relevant...but clearly some of you have misinterpreted the entire point and gone completely off the deep end trying to psychoanalyze a frigging post on a forum. Don't quit your day job. Seriously.

I am not depressed. I am not clinically depressed. I don't have psychological issues. My son is healthy, well adjusted and highly intelligent and capable. We opted homeschooling because of the military. When my ex and I divorced, he flaked out and financially wrecked our stability - financially and the spin lasted awhile but was nothing that was impossible to overcome. Part of the recovery was moving back with the parents, which is totally depressing and for awhile made me feel like the ultimate loser failure.

It's depressing for anyone who is fiercely independent to end up living with their parents but it's not a medical condition. You're way overboard on that.

I am not running away from or to anything whatsoever. Did you people even read the damn post? Sounds like a lot of projectors are smoking up the room here and maybe some of you need to reel in your own self loathing and regrets in life and stop assigning them to me. I just asked a question about the option of going full time and 1. what **** there is for teens to do on the road and 2. whether or not the anxieties are normal or if the people around us got in my head and caused me to second guess my plans.

The rest is all your baggage, so spare me please.

I have my own business. I am starting another one that is mobile friendly. It's getting nearer to the time I either 1. buy a house and root in or 2. select an RV as my permanent home and go full time, which is my preference. We are already well comfortable and adaptive to moving around on a regular basis. That's not an issue. An RV in theory seems as though it would be the better investment for that mobile lifestyle rather than leases and static locations.

Am I going to end up being trolled like this every time I post here? I thought this was a friendly place...maybe I was wrong.