OK...we'll try turning everything off. When we do that, should we just turn things on slowly? In other words, should we start with the main and A/C, then add the lights, then the water pump, etc.??
We need all of these things to run, all at once, and should have plenty of generator to do it...but something is just not going right for us. When we had it hooked up the other way, we had it all working--at the same time--and were only pulling about 3500 watts, so the load on the genset was only about 1/2.
Also...we noticed that our "economy" feature didn't seem to work when it is switched to 220--the generator sounds like it's running at full load, even when nothing is running. This of course makes it burn more fuel, and I would think just overall be working harder than it needs to.
I'm not trying to find someone to tell me that the way we were doing it before was right if it's not, but we are just really, really confused and want to do what is best both for our power needs and the generator lifespan.