A nice nearly new Newmar was backing into a space just across from me. He and the wife have wireless mikes and earphones so there is a lot of communication between them both by voice and by arm movements (and the slamming of the tranny into reverse and drive and extremely jerky movements).He has little problem getting into the space which is nice and wide but works very hard at getting his MH across the space in the opposite direction that it should be in. It has a patio so its a no-brainer. But, he's kinda straddling a corner of the patio. This goes on for about 15 minutes and there was a lot of hand waving and yelling besides the communication devices. Now he's on his belly, crawling under the MH to insert the dump end of the sewer hose into the sewer inlet. Its about 2' under the MH at this point. He has a FMCA number that is not nearly a new one so I'm assuming this isn't his first rodeo...maybe the number plate came with the MH? Who knows. I feel a bit like a jerk for not pointing out some of the obvious things that would simplify his parking and utility hookups but he doesn't look like the type that would see my effort as intended...more like an intrusion.

Likely best to do just as you did.I might watch from a short distance so that he could see me. If he initiated contact then I could probably determine if he might be open to casual comments about such things. Better that than to step in and point out his mistakes.If he did not speak then I would just disappear back to my site.

I think you should have let it alone just like you did. If they wanted help they could have asked for it. If you jump in without being asked then you are just being a know-it-all busy body. There is a fine line between being helpful and being nosy.

I always feel if someone needs help and I am visible, that someone will ask for help. Otherwise, I mind my own business. I know I have a certain procedure that I follow when hooking up.

If someone asks for help or someone is going to get hurt, otherwise I stay out of it.

I usually go and ask the wife if she thinks he'll yell at me if I help him get parked. If she laughs then all is good and she says "he's all yours". If she does not laugh then I say sorry to intrude and walk away. Rarely do I walk away. In these situations a little humor goes a long way with most people.

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down_home
Explorer II
Feb 01, 2014
Sometimes it's hard call, if you're waiting on the right cue. I try not to let anyone fall into the stupid pit alone though. I jump, in perhaps a bit early once or twice. They say we got it or no I think I can do it or whatever no harm no foul.
One thing don't want to do is offer help if you can't do that particular thing yourself.
CavemanCharlie
Explorer III
Feb 01, 2014
BC_Explorer wrote:
I do a lot of solo camping that is mostly at unimproved recreation sites with some being tight spots to back the trailer. I never have to ask for spotter assistance but utilize 2 x 2' foot lengths of 2x4 for reference.

One length of 2x4 is set crosswise at the back of the camp parking spot which represents the furthest/deepest I can back the trailer to.

The other length of 2x4 is set parallel to either the applicable left or right tire and represents where exactly the trailer should sit width wise in relation to the camp parking spot.

With this method, it takes zero time to get the trailer backed in and many people who have seen my method, think it is great.

I do that on the farm when backing the grain trucks up to a auger.
BC_Explorer
Explorer
Feb 01, 2014
I do a lot of solo camping that is mostly at unimproved recreation sites with some being tight spots to back the trailer. I never have to ask for spotter assistance but utilize 2 x 2' foot lengths of 2x4 for reference.

One length of 2x4 is set crosswise at the back of the camp parking spot which represents the furthest/deepest I can back the trailer to.

The other length of 2x4 is set parallel to either the applicable left or right tire and represents where exactly the trailer should sit width wise in relation to the camp parking spot.

With this method, it takes zero time to get the trailer backed in and many people who have seen my method, think it is great.
CavemanCharlie
Explorer III
Jan 31, 2014
I am a bachelor and don't have the wife problems. But, on the farm I work with my brother. He asks to be directed back up or, using the bucket tractor to pick things up. Then when I give him directions he does something else. I sar raise the bucket on the tractor and he will tip it back. I say tip it back and he will raise it up. Then he says "Well I could see that doing it my way would work better." In that case I say "Well do it yourself then". Of course by this time we are no longer talking in a quiet/ normal tone of voice. For years I just took the tractor away from him and let him direct me because I will listen to his directions. But, he is getting to old for the manual labor and wants to drive now. So, I've learned to just calm myself down, walk away, and give up. Better to let him do it himself and get mad at me for not helping then us both getting mad. At least I'm calm and not stressed out and he can get as mad as he wants. No skin off of my nose.

(Other people have watched us do this and for some reasons they always seem to think it's funny. The more mad at each other we get the more they laugh. I don't get that part I guess).
Rollnhome
Explorer
Jan 31, 2014
Our friends have the fancy radio voice activated headsets
They yell at each other for about 20 mins each time they park. :) When we go with them we prefer pull thru parks.
Racefan1
Explorer
Jan 31, 2014
You can direct me any time you like. I don't have to sleep with you that night, and when the wife tries to direct me, my tone of voice usually increases. When this happens, I usually end up with Hot Tongue and Cold Shoulder for dinner and a little less than a cuddle at bedtime. Feel free to take the radio out of her hand. After I get set up, drop by for an adult refreshment. I love to meet new friends.
Your directions on a bad day are better than hers on a good day.
Rollnhome
Explorer
Jan 31, 2014
My wife and I do it backwards from most. Most figure the husband is the better driver so he will back it in while wife spots. My wife is a good driver but not a good backer upper. Since I am better at backing up I get out and with one hand and no verbal communication direct her in parking the rig. With a 41 ft rig we have put it into some pretty tight spots. A few times in state parks we have drawn a crowd and my wife has been applauded. She always gets the credit. I think it is great that she does.
cacoon
Explorer
Jan 31, 2014
At what point do you step in and offer help?

When I am asked, if I see them about to cause damage I will let them know, otherwise, if they want or need my help they can ask.
Cacoon
Veebyes
Explorer II
Jan 31, 2014
bob_b wrote:
A helpful tip is sometimes appreciated.

I needed help backing up.

I sent my wife out with a 2-way radio to direct me.

The radio worked fine, but the wife malfunctioned.

She got distracted talking to another woman about girl stuff.

I knew something ominous was about to happen because I saw a group of guys holding their beers and laughing (thanks guys). They were looking at my motorhome, then CRUNCH, I hit the roof of the men’s room...then my wife decided to pay attention.

I now have a very good backup camera and have retired my wife from backup duties;)

We use the radios too. The policy is, if she is not talking or I can't see her in a mirror giving hand signals instead everything stops. I don't mind her being out of sight but I want to hear her. The only time she stops talking or signaling is when she stands where SHE wants a rear corner of the trailer to go & gives me a target to aim for.

Hundreds of backins. No crunching sounds so far.
BigRabbitMan
Explorer
Jan 31, 2014
For me, a key thing when backing is to either use the mirrors or do not use the mirrors. I have backed a lot of farm equiment into a lot of tight spaces and if I stay with the mirrors, the actions are natural and consistant. If switching from mirror to "looking" each is opposite of the other and gets things confused.

I also like the idea of helping teach someone to back in vs. just backing it in for them.