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reddog24
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rvhippo
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DiskDoctr wrote:


First, try to put things into perspective. You did NOT crash, die, or witness some horrific event. There is not trama in such a thing.



Most people are affected by a life-threatening event, even if it didn't play out fully into disaster.

For example, if someone puts a gun in your face and robs you but doesn't otherwise hurt you, you'll be affected in some way. Maybe you'll get a gun, maybe you'll become more aware of your surroundings, maybe you'll never go out again.

Just because you didn't get physically injured doesn't mean you won't suffer life-changing, emotional trauma from a life-threatening event.

JJBIRISH
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Yall know that the OP has left the building, donโ€™t chaโ€ฆ
Love my mass produced, entry level, built by Lazy American Workers, Hornet

DiskDoctr
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scroller95969 wrote:
RV.NET is the place to come for Post Traumatic Swerving Disorder.


Very creative! lol

Steve_S1
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scroller95969 wrote:
RV.NET is the place to come for Post Traumatic Swerving Disorder.


Is there not a therapist here that can help her out?
Like honestly reading some of the advice here if I was in her position I would lock myself in a bedroom and lock the door!
Gawd he hit the freaking curb cause his eyes were on some woman's butt !
Time to build a bridge and get over it!
2010 Cougar 25RL

Targa
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Hate to be a jerk here, but give your husband a break. Just judging by your reaction to the situation this sounds like a 1st time event and not the norm for his driving. Almost everyone has had a oh crud moment happen to them when driving due to a moment of complacency.

scroller95969
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RV.NET is the place to come for Post Traumatic Swerving Disorder.
Jeff & Lori
2004 Fleetwood Tioga 22B - Chevy chassis
10' Wells cargo trailer
Gracie Mae - our 9 year old Papillon

DiskDoctr
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Wow. Some folks are treating this like a tramatized who survived an airline crash and is now afraid to fly :R

First, try to put things into perspective. You did NOT crash, die, or witness some horrific event. There is not trama in such a thing.

Now, if you are *uneasy* with your DH's driving of the class A or he is unsure of himself, then surely take advantage of the advice to allow him to take an RV driving course, get practice in a large lot, drive with an experienced class A driver for a bit, etc.

Remember, there are two distinct issues here. The first is DH having or getting the required skills for class A. The second is your worrying about it.

Only you can let go of fear. Nobody can give it to you or take it from you. Some people suffer from irrational fears and have to make special accomodations for that. Not saying that is you, rather pointing out that even with taking appropriate steps to reduce the chances of future incidents, if you are either unwilling or unable to let go of the fear and move past it, then you may have to make other arrangements.

There is no shame in deciding you don't enjoy something. If you both decide the class A isn't right for you, then it is very simple to change to something you will both enjoy.

After all, a class A is not something you 'accomplish' it is something you 'choose' based on your needs. It is not a status symbol, nor is changing out of one a sign of failure. Choosing an RV based upon your needs and adjusting when your needs change is simply a sign of a wise person!

So I'd say to you make a wise choice. Either choose to let it go (and take any remediation steps you both find appropriate) or choose something else that you can both enjoy. One is as good as the other! ๐Ÿ˜„

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As a driving instructor, one of the things I teach people is "off road recovery". We intentionally have the student drop 2 wheels off the pavement and then drive back onto the pavement. Then we do all 4 wheels into the grass/gravel beside the driving track, then drive back on the pavement, we do these exercises at 55 mph and 65 mph.

All of this is done with an instructor in the passenger seat saying the instructions out loud as the student completes the exercise.

When done correctly, which happens when the student follows the instructions, someone riding in the back seat could not tell we have left the road and returned (other than the different sound of driving on grass/gravel as compared to pavement).

The students, who are often white knuckled and visibly nervous when they get in the car, come out of the car with the confidence and skills to successfully recover from running off the road.

Now, all that was said to say this to the OP...if you could ride in your RV through this exercise it would ease your fears and help you to be more at ease when you ride in your RV.

Finding a qualified person and a suitable place to conduct this exercise would be your biggest challenge.

Hints for successful off road recovery:

DO NOT attempt to steer back onto the road immediatly.
Take your foot off the gas.
Do not brake.
Let the car stabilize, keep your eyes looking well ahead so you can see the best place to return to the pavement (try to avoid coming back on at a place with a steep dropoff).
Slowly steer back onto the road.
Make no quick or drastic steering inputs.

Of course circumstances/conditions vary widely out on the open road so act accordingly.
Take time to be nice to someone today.
1999 Winnebago Adventurer 32 (454 Chevy)
Check out our first cross country trip.

Cloud_Dancer
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OK, does this all mean the title should've been "afraid to ride in the coach"?
If so, then it's the passenger that we're discussing, right?
It's nice to ID the OP, plus it's nice to ID the vehicle make and model.
Now, I can look it up and figure out the wheelbase and the rear overhang (for starters).
Willie & Betty Sue
Miko & Sparky
2003 41 ft Dutch Star Diesel Pusher/Spartan
Floorplan 4010
Blazer toad & Ranger bassboat

ddschuman
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I believe what happened could have even happened with a smaller vehicle. One slips too far over to the right and swerves to get back straight on the road. The larger vehicle, of course, causes much more of sway than a smaller vehicle. The driver may get a little scared but usually not as much as the passenger. I think if you would have been sitting in the front, you may not have felt the swerve the way you did and it may not have scared you as badly. It will take some getting used to, I'm sure, but don't give up on driving it if that was your original intention. If it were me, I would take a few trips close to home riding in the front seat to get comfortable riding in it first. A traumatic experience seems to make one fearful that it is not safe when in reality, it was probably a freak thing. Once you are comfortable as a passenger you may also be more comfortable as a driver. The way I interpreted your original post is that this situation scared you to the point of you not wanting to drive it. Maybe I interpreted wrong but if not, only practice will help. You must be comfortable enough to be a passenger first (I think) to be comfortable enough to drive it. You have to trust the rigs stability and handle ability. Sounds like DH did a good job of keeping it on the road. Good luck to you and I hope your fears soon subside so you can enjoy some happy camping.
Escaping the real world in our "home away from home"
2016 Cedar Creek 36CKTS
2016 Chevrolet 3500 High Country Duramax Dually

Mocoondo
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Take one big valium with a glass of wine before you get on board. You'll love your new RV once again.

Rick_Jay
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reddog24,

Glad to hear you're still reading. As with any forums, there is always some "filtering" readers must do.

And nice rig by the way. ๐Ÿ™‚

First of all, you didn't mention why your husband hit the soft shoulder. It could have been driver error, but then there also could have been something in the road he was trying to avoid. Was it windy? I've driven in some winds which make it feel like I'm driving a sailboat down the road. And until your used to it, even a passing truck can give you a sideways push. Have you spoken with him about this incident? Is he aware of your fears? I'd give him credit for getting the rig back on the road safely without damage. Not an easy task in a vehicle with which he has very little familiarity.

As others have pointed out, driving a Class A is different than driving a Class C. Not necessarily harder, just different. It takes practice. I echo the recommendations of others for you to take shorter trips in the motorhome to gain experience in different driving conditions. Going out to the mall? Take the RV. Those types of things. Also, your class A is almost 13 feet tall, which, I'm willing to bet is 2 - 3 feet taller than your class C. The floor height is higher, the weight is well over double. All of these things will cause it to ride & handle differently than your Class C. It just takes some time.

You were driving this home from the dealer. In my (limited) experience, the techs at the dealership air the tires up to their maximum listed inflation pressure. If the tires say 110 psi, that's what they put in them. In most cases, that is WRONG. The correct tire inflation pressure can only be determined if the rig is weighed. When I drove ours home, it rode very hard and I could feel the front tires bounce over bumps & expansion joints. When I got home, I checked the tire pressures and they were all 110 psi. I weighed the rig, and using the tire manufacturer suggestions, the proper pressures are about 85 psi front, 80 psi rear. WHAT A DIFFERENCE in handling. So another suggestion is to check your tire pressures and weigh the rig loaded and ready for travel. If it still has issues, then you can look into an alignment and possible suspension mods. But checking the tire pressures is free (if you have a gauge...and you should) and a weighing at a truck station should be around $10.


On our ride home from the dealer, the person that was driving behind us driving our car home, said that every underpass we went under I hit the brakes. I don't think I do that anymore ๐Ÿ™‚ , but it's part of getting used to the rig. I wasn't used to driving a 12' tall vehicle, and my brain kept saying "you should approach that overpass with caution".

Likewise, as has been said, with a class A, you have to position the vehicle a bit further to the center of the road than your car or class C. Once you are aware of that it becomes automatic.

The view from the front passenger seat of a Class A is awesome, but also a bit unnerving until you get used to it. During our first year, I took a scenic winding back road along the Maine coast, instead of the inland highway. Great view, but it was tight and I joked that wifey could've delivered the mail, she was that close to the edge of the road.

So I suggest you discuss these concerns with your hubby. Take some short drives around town, and just slowly get used to the feeling. I suggest you be belted up front so that you get used to the passenger position. Plus, an extra pair of eyes on the road ahead can't hurt.

I would also recommend that you try driving it a bit, even if it's just around a mall parking lot for starters. There have been times when we've been in stop & go traffic, wifey will get behind the wheel to allow me to stretch my legs and use the restroom. When the traffic clears, I get back behind the wheel and we're good to go.

Good Luck,

~Rick
2005 Georgie Boy Cruise Master 3625 DS on a Workhorse W-22
Rick, Gail, 1 girl (27-Angel since 2008), 1 girl (22), 2 boys (23 & 20).
2001 Honda Odyssey, Demco Aluminator tow bar & tow plate, SMI Silent Partner brake controller.

Deb_and_Ed_M
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reddog24 wrote:
I appreciate all of you that have posted helpful replies. We have a new 2013 Tiffin 35QBA.


Nice!!

Back to that alignment thing: I had been told that the motorhome mfrs buy the naked chassis, which has the steering aligned to its naked state. Then they add the body and all the "stuff" inside the body, and that added weight throws off the alignment. So you load it up, fill with water/fuel, etc - then take it back for a realignment? Now it's possible that a quality company like Tiffin already does that for you??

All I know is that it made a nigh-and-day difference in the handling of our Class C.
Ed, Deb, and 2 dogs
Looking for a small Class C!

jamesu
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The law requires a CDL license to drive a Greyhound, but ANYBODY can walk up to a huge RV and drive it off the lot. I have never understood that.
2011 Chevy 2500 Duramax diesel
2019 Timber Ridge 24RLS (Outdoors RV)
Go Cougs!