I had to replace my rear gears at 100k miles, but not because they wore out...I had the truck in for an oil change and the grease monkey saw the leaky pinion gasket and decided that a few cranks on the nut ought to tighten it right up and would stop the leak. Well, it stopped the leak alright, and it only took 100 miles for the rear to start howling like crazy. Cost me a grand for new gears at an axle shop and I got the first shop to pay for it.
The 14-bolt fill floater in the 2500 burbs is what it used in 3500 trucks....it might be broken but it didn't just wear out. Entirely possible break in period was disregarded as was noted.
Regarding the electrical, if it is resetting the PCM then I would look for something major. Might be the circuit breaker they use in place of the fusible link these days. Agree there is probably stray aftermarket wiring that was improperly secured when lights and such were de-installed, and this is producing a random short somewhere.
I would think a GOOD auto electric shop would be able to trace this out for you, I wouldn't sell this one down the road just yet.