Tim the other possibility is that temps need to be sustained for x seconds or minutes before the PCM moves the dash gauge to be sure it's not a spike, this would keep the gauge from bouncing all over the place. Next time you're towing see if you can make out any correlation between dash and scan gauges, would be interested to see what the relationship is. Is there ever a time when the scan gauge and dash gauge read the same?
I have an OBD diagnostic tool that communicates via Bluetooth and is run by an app on my phone. It also has a realtime dashboard function, and after scrolling through hundreds of variables including minutia on O2 sensor voltages, there is no trans temp option!