carolgary: You have reached the point where trying to resolve your problem without professional help is impossible. What you need is a "facilitator". Every Gringo community in Mexico has a person(s) who fits that title. Often they are Abogados but sometimes just a person who knows many officials and the ins and outs of getting to the right people. Even large foreign corporations use this type of person to obtain permits and more. Here are 2 people who may help:
https://www.facebook.com/pages/Sonia/252211011634302 Sonia lives in SMA and is active in some Mexico forums Another firm is :
www.chapalalaw.com
Spencer deals in many different matters. Mostly immigration but he has also helped many people with automobile problems. Hope this helps.
Moisheh