I don't have a list for you, but I can tell you what I do.
Years ago I added an app to my iPhone called Todo. It's basically a To Do list that lets you add items and check them off.
I created three categories:
* To Do
* To Pack
* Kids To Do
Then over the years I've just added items to this list. As I prep for a trip I keep my phone with me and mark items as complete as I go. Then when we get home I unmark all the items as I unpack things. This helps me remember to get my toothbrush out of the trailer and unpack all my tools. Unmarking the items also creates the list for the next trip.
The "To Do" items are things like getting gas, groceries, cash, firewood, etc. Those are mostly things that I can't do in my driveway; I have to go somewhere to do them. Some exceptions are filling the water tank, checking tire pressure, checking lug nuts, etc.
The "To Pack" list is things like clothes, tools, boots, headlamp, etc.
The final list has the items that I can delegate to my kids. I need them to remember to pack their pillows and their own gear.
The list has grown over the years. And some of the things that I've gotten tired of packing & unpacking for every trip are the things that I've bought duplicates for so we can have a set in the trailer. And some of the things that we use more in the trailer than in the house, we just store them in the trailer now.