Looking at 40ft toy haulers, now how to choose a truck

Reminds me of a Christmas party my wife and I went to, all the husbands were bragging about their lifted trucks, dally,s, etc. They shared their stories of buying form the lot and customizing, when they got to me and asked what truck I drove, I said I don't, I drive a MINI!, no one talked to me the rest of the night, lol