Great insight!~ Thanks for your candor. I do think my kids need a dedicated space to sleep and watch tv or play their xbox on rainy days. I just struggle with the maintaining the family space that disappears with the traditional bunkhouses. I'm not a fan of the 2 person couch and dinette lining one wall with no other seating. I've seen a few models will do a party couch and that might be an option. I had not given much consideration to the mid bunkhouse options and I'm glad you brought that up Lantley. My kids are too tall to be able to use the loft space (dear sweet daughter got herself stuck up in one this past weekend at the RV show). I fear that type of mid bunk would be a disaster. I did take a look at two that have slideouts and true bunk beds, however, and I'm liking those. With the turn of the beds, they seem to keep the overall length of the rig to 37' or so and that is definitely doable!
Jayco Eagle HT 30.5MBOK looks pretty nice although I'll miss my King bed and w/d hookups. The fridge is pretty small as well but I know I'll have to make sacrifices to keep the length down.
Coachmen Chaparral 360IBL is another mid bunkhouse that looks pretty nice. It's a little longer at 39' but the kitchen seems a bit larger and has the option of a 12 cu fu fridge (something I think we would need).
Anyone out there have either one of these or know of another mid bunk rig (sans the overhead loft). Thanks so much everyone! Your challenging me to think and consider how we would really live and I appreciate the feedback.