Another one here in the confused catagory.
I'm sorry you had to go thru this but we went thru a similar situation with my Mom a couple years back and the full time lifestyle was actually a boon as my parents were out in Arizona for the winter and we were able to spend the last couple months with her while my siblings were only able to make short visits. We took care of some stuff directly but mostly helped my Dad thru the process.
As I read the question, it was asked in as gentle a manner as possible in the hopes of learning from your experience.