Finally fixed!! After buying a new control board and 2 thermostats it ended up being a $20 temp sensor for the coil which was actually the very first thing i looked at.. i tested both for continuity and neither had it so i ruled it out because 1 unit was working fine. Turns out i needed to ohm it out. The giod one had 11k ohms and the other was 80k ohms.. i swapped them out and then the unit worked.. in hind sight i see why it would let the heat pump come on and not the a/c. 6 hrs of trouble shooting and it was the very first thing i looked at. Oh well hope this helps someone!