Beloved Spouse and I (and the cat) tend toward the "glamping" side, that is, we cook real meals, wash real dishes, and take daily hot showers.
We have about 40 USG of fresh water and that gets us a minimum of four days. So I would argue that you should budget about 5 USG per person per day. As our grey tank is under 15 USG, probably closer to 10, that is our limiting factor.
With a composting toilet we have no black tank and a dump cycle of two to four weeks. (Cat box is generally good for a month with daily care. ;) )
With big solar and big batteries we generally cook all electrically and usually cannot use all the energy we create unless we get a lot of rain or snow, in which case we simply idle the engine while cooking. We do not have a generator.
Our heating system, hot water, and back up stove are all diesel, sipping from a 60 USG tank. Most folks with big propane tanks get one to three months, so that is not usually an issue.
Fresh water in, grey water out, and waste tend to be the limiting factors.