Talking loudly on the phone isn't ALWAYS "rude" or "stupid". DH is a bit hard of hearing, but not enough to warrant a hearing aid. He talks loudly in general, and doesn't realize just how far his voice carries. I have developed a "signal" to let him know when he's being loud. I make a motion with my hand like I'm turning the volume down on a radio. He then will lower his voice. But, eventually, it will probably go back up. I just make the motion again. Unfortunately, we are not connected at the hip, so I am not always there to do a bit of controlling.
I know it's annoying, but give people a break. You may not have the entire picture. There are far worse things to get upset about in life than one end of a loud conversation.
