I'm so sorry. Your story is awful and I can understand how you feel because twenty years ago an accident changed my whole life. One second you're fine, next second it's all over. Giving up the things that you love is extremely hard but my husband and I try to keep doing as much as we can. I find that keeping busy is a good antidote for the physical and emotional pain that goes along with a life changing accident. Anniversaries can be really tough.
I hope that you manage to enjoy some of your time in South Carolina. Please keep us posted on how everything is going for you.
Karen